Posted by LT in on October 30, 2014
Here is a link to my writings on organic church. I’ve been part of organic churches for over 10 years and am part of a network in Saskatchewan, Canada. It’s book length, but organized like Wikipedia. You can digest the 20 page version or click the links to see deeper stuff on particular subjects. It isn’t intended to be comprehensive, it is my contribution to the conversation.
Posted by LT in on August 1, 2014
I was once at a conference talking about how loving one another is the most important ministry we have to each other. It is a value I hold to firmly. Once someone objected to this saying we can’t just be loving all the time, that sometimes we have to be tough and be prepared to hurt a few feelings. In a sense I didn’t disagree, I just don’t see how it is inconsistent to love someone and be tough with them. Loving someone means be tough after other options have failed, and especially when other people are being hurt. It also means telling people when they are wrong.
The nice thing to do is to let stuff slide. When a mistake is just a mistake letting stuff slide is a loving and merciful thing to do. Being and nice and loving often overlap. However when a mistake has substantial negative consequences letting it slide is a very unloving thing to do. It is short sighted thinking. Sweeping things under the rug avoids the potential hurt from a confrontation now but it increases the risk of much more hurt later. Integrity calls us to think not just of ourselves and the person we might need to challenge but all the people connected with a situation.
When a culture of niceness becomes deeply embedded in a community conflict starts to leak out in less direct ways. Direct conflict is replaced with passive aggressive actions. When people share concerns they are vague and generalized making it truly difficult to find out what exactly is going on. I was part of one community where half of all issues raised were “communication” problems. I was given the task of finding a technological solution to the “communication” problems. When I set out to discover the real world examples I found that people just weren’t doing their jobs. It is nicer to generalize things as a communication issue. Needless to say, nothing I could think of would have solved the problem.
Another terrible symptom of the niceness culture is over sensitization. People know full well that no one will directly challenge them, so they are on high alert for any decision or comment that just might be veiled criticism or a veiled attack on them. People who tend to speak and act passive aggressively often believe everyone else operates as they do. Heaven help the poor schlep who actually speaks his mind directly and over sensitive people everywhere start to freak out. I’ve found myself in that situation. I tend to mean what I say, and say what I mean. If I’m going to be critical, I’ll be critical and say exactly what I mean. That doesn’t stop people from dragging me kicking in to crazy town.
When a niceness culture dominates it undermines any semblance of accountability and left unchecked it can kill an organization or a community. There is no real accountability when everyone is afraid to hurt someone’s feelings. Without accountability small problems become big problems. People are left in dysfunctional patterns and leave a trail of wounded souls in their wake.
When it comes down to it the culture of niceness isn’t very nice at all.
Posted by LT in on April 16, 2014
Something terrific happens when you connect with terrific people. At Bethany I connected with lots of great people, and many are my friends on facebook.
Here are some of the memorable ones for me:
Harry was the maintenance guy. He was always great to chat with and he had lots of patience for the absurdities of taking care of a men’s residence. It was during my second stint at the college in 2001 where he really blessed my socks off. I asked that he be my “mentor” and while there was no formal arranged time we chatted lots throughout that year. We watched 9/11 together and I observed how it seemed to profoundly impact him. He spoke about how God wants to “jet” in to our lives. About how God wants us to be “terrorists for love” and his perception of God’s love and grace was like a huge hose flooding a plain. He kept saying “grace” and “waste” that God’s love is so overflowing it just soaks through everything. He had a connection with God that he struggled to articulate with words.
Doug was one of my mentors during my internship year at the school. His hermeneutics course was one of the most influential, if not the most influential formal course I’d ever taken in my whole life. I took the class with some great guys, and we were thoroughly challenged. Doug is passionate about the scriptures and if you see his formal writing, passionate about footnotes. I got to work with him for some time after I graduated and got to connect with him as he led study conferences across the country on women in ministry. He was pivotal in leading the MB Conference through this issue and I believe to a more biblical position on the subject.
One of the most powerful memories I have of Rick is in my second year. We were in a van heading somewhere for a leadership retreat and we talked about my serious failings in my relationship with a girl in the first year. He was good for me, gracious and wise. He was the spiritual heartbeat of the school for many years. There was another situation when he was president that totally impressed me. He risked a lot to speak in to a very volatile situation that could have easily turned sour on the college. His efforts made a huge difference and that situation was eventually resolved.
Rob was just plain terrific at his job. As the director of finance he was the supervisor of my department. He was fantastic to work with and very competently handled the school’s finances. He also amped up his morning devotions with espresso, so he was always bright and cheery at 7:15 AM for the car pool out to the college. Rob brought level headed perspective and a confident faith. He was one of those people who brought so much more than the job description required.
Gil came onboard after I graduated. Besides cheering for the right hockey team, he brought intelligence, passion, and a devotion to quality theology. Sadly I never had him as a teacher, but based on what other people said about him, he was certainly among the best Bethany had in the decades I was connected to the school. While I was at Bethany Gil blessed me with lots of great conversations and supported me through the same volatile situation Rick did.
Posted by LT in on March 8, 2014
Religion is what we do to earn something that in fact we’ve already been given.
Posted by LT in on March 6, 2014
The first casualty of religious obligation is the truth, at least any semblance of sincerity in the truth. The communities I’ve thrived in are communities of sincerity. The relationships that give life are ones where reality doesn’t have be sanitized.
In an empire of lies telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
Posted by LT in on February 26, 2014
A few weeks ago Donald Miller posted a bombshell revelation: he doesn’t attend a church often! I’m not well tuned in to the blogosphere these days so I didn’t pick up on this until someone posted a link to a follow up interview on facebook.
Now I found this all very fascinating. Coming off a house church network retreat where I guided a session on “What is church” it has been an intriguing exercise watching people freak out over Mr. Millar’s comments.
I may not end up in the very same place as Donald but I feel pretty much exactly the way he does about conventional worship services. I usually don’t connect with God through corporate song nor do I learn much in a sermon. Much more than most of his critics I think I understand where he is coming from.
I’ve looked through a few rebuttals and I’d have to say I’m startled to see so many people appealing to scripture to prove Miller wrong. When simple church folks start appealing to scripture about church we start to hear answers like “there is no biblical model” or “the church has evolved from its primitive roots.” In other words, stop being so picky about making church look like church did in the New Testament. It is rich to see such staunch defenders of the status quo lean so heavily on scripture.
Inevitably people bring out the reformation ideal which defined church as the preaching of the word and the right administration of the ordinances. Noble thoughts, but they don’t carry much weight with me as I don’t consider the writings of Luther or Calvin scripture.
There isn’t much ink spilled on baptism in the New Testament and most of what we have on the Eucharist is a few examples and an admonition to leave enough food and wine for everyone to enjoy. The proclamation of the gospel was and still is an important ministry, but there is absolutely nothing in the New Testament that says said proclamation needed to happen through an exposition of scripture delivered using the Greek art of oratory. Neither word we translate as “preach” actually defines the medium by which we share the good news or make our proclamation. While a sermon can certainly be the medium of proclamation, lots of others things are as well, including the Eucharist.
We do see a description of church in 1Cor 14 where see an orderly but a broadly participatory gathering of people who above all else love one another. Alan Knox has done a lot of great work on this and he concludes rather correctly that the purpose of the gathering of the church is to build up one another in love.
The purpose of church isn’t to sacrifice oneself in dedication to an institution which claims their goal is bring glory to God through their corporate success. Shockingly, Miller doesn’t seem to consider how important it is to be in a worship service to glorify God regardless of whether he is built up, cared for, learns anything or communes with God. His critics thunder “Church is not about him and his felt needs! It is about glorifying God.” I wonder if the Pharisees thought similarly about the Sabbath. “We must remember the Sabbath in order to glorify God!” and in their eyes Jesus wasn’t remembering properly. Jesus’ response “God made the Sabbath for man, not man for the Sabbath.”
Let me introduce a radical thought…”God made the church for man, not man for the church.” Taking my cue from Jesus’ prayer in John 17 I’d say that the church is intended to be a community of people communion with each other and God. That the glory of God is manifested in us in our communion. We do not simply gather for the glory of God, we gather because of the glory of God. We become one, and through that we witness to the truth of Christ’s love, light and life!
When I look at the oft quoted Hebrews 10:25 in defense of assembling together I see the words “encourage one another.” How does one encourage one another in an event where one cannot speak?
When I look at Eph 5:19-20 I wonder how we might speak to one another, when all we hear is the amplified voices and instruments of a concert.
How can we teach or admonish one another in adherence to Colossians 3:16 when we meet in an environment that makes it near impossible to truly get to know one another?
If Mr. Millar has an informal network of relationships by which he participates in real fellowship, receives real encouragement and admonishment, where he has an opportunity to teach and to learn I dare say he has more essential elements of church than a typical church member.
Posted by LT in on February 19, 2014
I’ve been on a journey for over 10 years investigating simple expressions of church. Over those years my thinking has evolved and where I find myself is in a very different place than where I started. When I started “simple church” was a church based around a better type of meeting. While small meetings are better for somethings I’d say deprecating the event in favour of building relationships has revolutionized my whole concept of church and even the gospel. The rhythms of a communal life changed my perception and now conventional ministry seems very foreign to me.
1Cor 8:1b “But while knowledge makes us feel important, it is love that strengthens the church.”
That little snippet doesn’t say it all, but it says enough. We gear almost everything we do to acquire more knowledge. We gauge our success at how many people we accumulate to hear our knowledge, or are willing to pay to hear us speak or see the words we write. The kicker I can write this and it becomes just another item flowing down the stream in and our of people’s conscious minds. The only way people understand the value of love is to experience it. Now that I have what so many other people care so much about seems irrelevant.
Posted by LT in on December 7, 2013
It has been a long time since I posted anything of significance here. The last year has been difficult for a number of reasons. It is only now that I’m starting to get my energy back. I’ve been intentionally resting since August and it has been very good. We took a break from hosting church gatherings in our home. Carol and I have stayed connected with the people we use to gather with regularly. Some of these friends have found great faith communities to be a part of. It looks like the timing was good.
I’ve been writing and hopefully around the new year I’ll launch a new website dedicated to organic church life and ministry. I’ve been part of simple churches for 10 years now and I finally think I have some really good things to say about it. I keep revising and revising. I hope it has helpful as CoveringAndAuthority.com has been.
I think one of the reasons why I haven’t written much is because I’m engaged by debate. I like to respond. When I have written something, it is usually because I encountered something that didn’t sit right with me. So much of what I’ve responded to in the last few years isn’t my former blogging fare. I’ve been neck deep the brokenness of people. In respect for the privacy of all involved I’ve kept quiet.
One thing I have been thinking about is integrity and trust. I’ve learned that character and integrity is so much more important than giftedness, talent or intelligence. Sometimes the loyalty we have to certain friends or celebrities is misguided. There are a few people in my life I’ve avoided and I’m glad I did. There are others I wished had avoided more. Not so long ago I read the biography of a man I worked with and was stunned at how sanitized the story was. There was another person I was pretty close with that was incredibly intelligent and well connected but he was constantly doing and saying dramatic things in order to gain sympathy and attention. Over time I noticed how the facts in his stories changed. It took years but it slowly dawned on me that I was being used and manipulated. My friend wasn’t intentionally malicious, just self-absorbed and he had issues with self-esteem.
Human beings seem to have a natural inclination to want to believe our friends and associates. It is fitting that we give people the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes there is some aspect of the relationship that brings a benefit. To address falsehood in the relationship would mean the benefit goes away. It is only when they flagrantly take advantage of us or do something that starkly contrasts their stated values that we start to consider that all is not what appears to be. Even then many willingly bury any critical thoughts and allow themselves to be exploited, cheated or lied too.
What can we do? Even if we are taken advantage of isn’t it better, on balance, to have an open heart? How much caution and suspicion can one person hold before it starts impair the natural growth of healthy relationships? No one is perfect and I doubt there is a person alive that doesn’t compromise their values at one point or another, especially when the pressure is on in the moment. When does someone pull away or confront? When do you appeal to an authority or an agency to hold the person accountable?
These have been some of the hard questions I’ve wrestled with over the last year.