Embracing the new, mourning the old
I must apologize for all the political posts. Canada just went through some stunning political drama. I’ve decided to move my Canadian political commentary to vote.bridgecity.net, a new blog that I share with a former member of the Canadian Alliance, Jordon Cooper.
I’ve been working on something a little more worthwhile. I started writing about what I thought about how we disciple people and the effectiveness of colleges and seminaries. So far it is getting a little long and I’m not sure when I’ll be done.
I’m moving steadily towards marriage. Living right next door to my soon-to-be family has some advantages. I am slowly more and more integrated with that life. It is going to be a challenge. The oldest son presents some unique challenges that can be incredibly discouraging at times. Last night was brutal. Overall things are going well though. I love my fiance very deeply. I love being a part-time dad. There is a lot to be proud of with the two boys.
I think one of the things that has been the hardest has been the reaction of some married friends. Some make you feel like your life is about to begin now that you are married. One person told me he felt empty inside until he got married. That certainly hasn’t been the case for me. I understand the reaction of my single friends the best. They are happy for me but seem sad at the same time. For many the single life is something you can’t just discard, it is mourned.
315 is our house number and has come to symbolize much more than a house. It is a web of relationships and roomate connections that goes back to the mid-nineties for some of us. I joined in later on. We’ve had so much fun over the years. I’ve lived with some terrific people and it always sad when they move out. The weekend I get married concludes the final chapter of 315. Scotty moves out at the end of this month which is sad all in itself. It shows me that we can’t cling too tightly to the status quo because life is constantly changing.
Right now I’m embracing my new life and beginning to mourn my old life.