Embracing the new, mourning the old

Embracing the new, mourning the old

I must apologize for all the political posts.  Canada just went through some stunning political drama.  I’ve decided to move my Canadian political commentary to vote.bridgecity.net, a new blog that I share with a former member of the Canadian Alliance, Jordon Cooper.

I’ve been working on something a little more worthwhile.  I started writing about what I thought about how we disciple people and the effectiveness of colleges and seminaries.  So far it is getting a little long and I’m not sure when I’ll be done. 

I’m moving steadily towards marriage.  Living right next door to my soon-to-be family has some advantages.  I am slowly more and more integrated with that life.  It is going to be a challenge.  The oldest son presents some unique challenges that can be incredibly discouraging at times.  Last night was brutal.  Overall things are going well though.  I love my fiance very deeply.  I love being a part-time dad.  There is a lot to be proud of with the two boys. 

I think one of the things that has been the hardest has been the reaction of some married friends.  Some make you feel like your life is about to begin now that you are married.  One person told me he felt empty inside until he got married.  That certainly hasn’t been the case for me.  I understand the reaction of my single friends the best.  They are happy for me but seem sad at the same time.  For many the single life is something you can’t just discard, it is mourned. 

315 is our house number and has come to symbolize much more than a house.  It is a web of relationships and roomate connections that goes back to the mid-nineties for some of us.  I joined in later on.  We’ve had so much fun over the years.  I’ve lived with some terrific people and it always sad when they move out.  The weekend I get married concludes the final chapter of 315.  Scotty moves out at the end of this month which is sad all in itself.  It shows me that we can’t cling too tightly to the status quo because life is constantly changing. 

Right now I’m embracing my new life and beginning to mourn my old life.

  1. #1 by Rev. Mike on May 25, 2005 - 10:16 am

    What a cool post, LT. I really look forward to reading your thoughts about seminary education, and it’s touching to read of the changes going on with you as you move towards this next major significant change. I’ll also have to add your new blog to my Bloglines subscription.

  2. #2 by Leighton Tebay on May 25, 2005 - 10:51 am

    Rev. Mike:

    There is a lot to blog about when it comes to learning how to be a dad. I’m trying to balance privacy with my desire to talk about that which I’m learning about.

  3. #3 by ron on May 26, 2005 - 5:12 am

    My prayers are with you Leighton as you make your transitional crossing. I have always thought in mind that this path would be more difficult than mine. I’ve been married fo almost 30 years and have two daughters, so the growing and the learning process was incrimental, whic all sort of went through and adjusted to. But our jumping right in , so to speak…which has to be a tougher adjustment. Im glad things are going well…will continue to pray blessings upon this new relationship, and the old relationships, maybe a merging of the two. Shalom.

  4. #4 by Jordon on May 26, 2005 - 2:56 pm

    Doh, I was “outed” on LT’s blog. The shame I must carry.

  5. #5 by Kevin Harms on May 26, 2005 - 4:37 pm

    Yeah, wow. I am happy that you are getting married as well. I hope it works well for ya. As well, I hope you can make it out to ‘Toba more often with your family. Being single is really cool, I miss it sometimes too. There are so many freedoms that you can enjoy. Married life also has things that you will always crave as a single person. You transition will be a bit different than most and may be tougher, but we’re behind ya all the way.

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